Tales of a Zulugal

There are good habits and there are bad habits.  Most of the time it's the bad habits that tend to infiltrate into our daily routines and they seem to stock to you stonger than superglue.  To take themout of your life takes more energy and determination than you can imagine. I read an article about habits in the Monthly FIA magazine which spoke about a young chap called Stefan who had struggled with a drinking problem for years.  His other bad habit was jumping from one girl to the next, as soon as he got what he wanted, he would move onto his next conquest. When he decided to change his habits, he realised that he had to change his environment first.  So he took a drastic decision of moving from sunny St Lucia to the icy cold England.  Leaving behind all his friends helped because they would have easily influenced him to go back to the destructive cycle of drinking and womanizing. You might be thinking well my bad habit does not hurt anyone.  I just arr...

We're right at the beginning of the new year. You should be looking forward to it but you're not. You should be making some major changes that are so lacking in your character, but you're not. You should be taking the all important steps to bring stability and wipe away those debts but you don't. I hear you, it is not because you don't want to change things but you go on to explain that it's because you still don't have the tools to make the wrong in your life right. Last year you tried against all odd, eventhough you didn't have the so called tools or means to succeed, but you tried. You pulled yourself together and decided to change your LIFE! You had so much energy, so much drive. You had a few victories and these steered you on. Until, you came acoss some obtacles, you tried to look for the solution - to make this change happen- but none was within your reach. You knocked on doors until your knuckles turned white and bruised with fustration - mo...

It's never easy to grow up. Countless times when I was young when people asked how old I was - I always used to say , " I will be ... years old next year" or "I will be turning ...years old". For some reasons I was keen to reach adulthood. So much so that when playing with my sister and friends we would act like adults. Dressing up in our parents clothes, nicking food from our homes and bringing it together and cooking up a meal in an old pot in the back yard of our house - I guess that that is where I get my culinary flare from. At times we did naughty things like folding up bits of newspapers and lighting it up and pretending it was a cigarette. One time, on a rainy day, we decided to build a little mud hut right in front of my house! By the way that was my idea. Everything was underway but unfortunately my grandmother popped over for a visit and saw what we doing before the project got underway - she surely beat the daylights out of us that day! All this w...

My culture is very dear to me. Where I come from makes me the person I am today. I love being a Zulu girl. In fact I don't know of any other tribe that is well known in the whole world like the Zulu's. Even when I started working taking restaurant reservations for a five star hotel this side(UK). When I had to spell letters for customers it was A for alpha, B for bravo and Z for ZULU!! I later discovered that this was used internationally. I was blown away. It is funny how when people are placed in a different environment they tend to conform instead of transform those around. They conform in the sense that they start to speak differently, behave differently and sometimes loose their cultural values that were taught to him since he was young. I know of some people who would go to Johannesburg, SA for a week and then come back to Durban speaking "broken" zulu. I would be like, duh! I think that it's good to be different rather than conforming to foreign attitudes a...

Have you ever reached a point in your life when you have felt like it just cannot get any worse, when you feel you have reached rock bottom. Well that is the phase that I am currently going through at this present moment. Bear with me as I attempt to fill you in. Well it all begun about 4 weeks ago when I went into work one Tuesday, I worked for a concession within a Mega clothing Store in Oxford Circus. I had just come back a day before from a lovely chilled out week long break I was feeling refreshed, energised and ready to face the challenges of working in the hectic environment that I worked in. A liitle background on what I was doing at this particular job, well I was kind of in charge of the concession because I worked full time, so if anything went wronge it would all go onto my head. I I started the long day at 8:30am and had to finish at 6pm but most of the time I clocked out at 6:20-6:30pm. I don't mind hard work but working under stressful environment was what I had t...

The past 3 days have been very laid back and relaxing, its like a  continuous  weekend! I enjoyed that for sure and Im sure everyone else did. But I so wish that I was around my family - my sisters and my parents. The thing is I am miles away they are in South Africa and I am in the UK!!! Its just sooo sad -there are so many things that are going down back home and I am not THERE!! For instance there are 3 new additions in my family- of 2 girls and 1 boy and they have never laid eyes on me. I'm sure when I go home for a visit they will be like 'who the heck are you??' I wouldn't blame them you know, I haven't been home for almost two years now. I know, I know that is a long time and I am promising myself that it is the first and last time that I am staying away from home for such a long period of time. I have actually spoken to people who haven't been to their home countries for over 6 years on end!! It's really sad because they are missing out on so much ...