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Habits

There are good habits and there are bad habits.  Most of the time it's the bad habits that tend to infiltrate into our daily routines and they seem to stock to you stonger than superglue.  To take themout of your life takes more energy and determination than you can imagine.

I read an article about habits in the Monthly FIA magazine which spoke about a young chap called Stefan who had struggled with a drinking problem for years.  His other bad habit was jumping from one girl to the next, as soon as he got what he wanted, he would move onto his next conquest. When he decided to change his habits, he realised that he had to change his environment first.  So he took a drastic decision of moving from sunny St Lucia to the icy cold England.  Leaving behind all his friends helped because they would have easily influenced him to go back to the destructive cycle of drinking and womanizing.

You might be thinking well my bad habit does not hurt anyone.  I just arrive a few minutes late for appointments, I engage myself in harmless gossip from time to time, sleeping late and waking up late is part of my life style.

At the end of the day a bad habit is just that - a bad habit.  So taking time to analyse yourself is a wise decision.  In your anaysis, be honest with yourself, after all it wil be you that will benefit from this task.

When I was young I used to constantly bit my naiuls.  I enjoyed my nail biting until I was about 12 years old.  It was the time that most girls around  my age started to take extra care about their appearance, doing pretty hairdos and growing their nails.  When I saw Thandeka's beautiful strong white nails, I thought to myself , " I want to have lovely strong long nails too!".  So I enlisted the help of my best friend Thandeka and we came to an agreement.  The agreement was that she would give me a clout if I even dared to raise my hand to my mouth.  To some degree I had to internalize my desire to have luscious long nails, however I must say that having her tell me off a couple of times did drive the message home.

I soon reaped the rewards of not munching on my nails.  They grew, I was chuffed!  But I soon realised that although they grew, they were weak and they would break easily.  I was not happy about this - but I stuck at it and today needless to say my nails are much stronger than those early days.

It might be a bit tough to break any habit be it time keeping or nail munching.  If you stick at it, sooner or later you will see the change. the change might be small at first but it will gradually lead to a bigger change.  And eventually the bad habit will be replaced by a good habit.  Getting started is all that you have to do.

Happy Habit changing!
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